
"What's in a name? That which we call a rose
By any other name would smell as sweet." Romeo and Juliet (II, ii, 1-2)Over these many years I have come face to face with "well speak" or the "well polished" excuse or euphemism for not coming to class or even quitting Tai Chi.. I have become quite enamored of exposing it in all of its forms...humorously speaking that is. I'm sure some of the students who quit would be so offended by my attempts at humor...after all they were "deadly serious" about starting Tai Chi in the first place...Of course, I'm sure (tongue in cheek) they were "deadly serious" in what they said when they quit.
Speaking frankly, with all of these sayings by students, it would seem the impression they want to leave is that the cost of continuing with Tai Chi is much, much more than the benefits they would reap by staying.
- Unfortunately, my work schedule and family obligations, plus the new dog, make it impossible for me to continue tai chi but I do take away healthful benefits and hopefully will be able to recommit some time in the future...
- I cannot come to class, my cat peed on the bed
- I cannot come to class, my cat peed on the bed
- I cannot come to class, my cat vomited on the bed
- (Empty space here for no euphemism whatsoever offered in explanation)
- I won't be here anymore, I have to find a job
- etc., etc.
I know, people want to be polite, don't want to offend, etc., so they make use of excuses and in many cases use euphemisms for quitting.I used the words, "hard times" today twice when 2 different pan handlers asked for "spare change". So rather than them saying "hey buddy, give me some money", it is "spare change", rather than saying "I don't want to give you any money", it is "hard times". We do alot of this in this country, but I'll go out on a limb here and say the fine art of speaking euphemistically as opposed to having to explain oneself.
- I'm really busy
- I'm overloaded
- I'm tired
- etc.
It is interesting in retrospect that in more than a few cases, students told me in no uncertain terms that they have wanted to do Tai Chi for a long time, they could not wait to start, they were excited to start, in several cases students said, "perhaps you could even start a class in my basement", "we could have people meet at my house"... In fact you can precede all of the euphemisms and excuses above with all of these. My mind recoils at even contemplating giving up my studio space and starting a class in someone's basement...only to hear "we can't meet in my basement anymore, I need the space for my dog".
Ah well, so "the bloom is off the rose" after the 3rd for 4th lesson in Tai Chi, who can blame people for "gathering their rosebuds while they may... for the flower that smiles today, tomorrow may be dying".




